>Top 10 Tips for Anger Management

>Mismanaged anger can make you sick. It can also  lead to road rage, workplace violence, divorce and addictions.

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. … when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline. … The instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. … Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to express anger. …

Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn’t allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.

Unexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments haven’t learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren’t likely to have many successful relationships.

Finally, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside.

As Dr. Spielberger notes, “when none of these three techniques work, that’s when someone—or something—is going to get hurt.”

… Sometimes, our anger and frustration are caused by very real and inescapable problems in our lives. Not all anger is misplaced, and often it’s a healthy, natural response to these difficulties. – apa.org

Here are the Top 10 Tips for anger management that I’ve found most useful (beyond the Holy Trinity of Health: Exercise, Eat right and Get enough sleep!)

1. Slow down and think carefully
2. “Silly humor” can help defuse rage
3. Change your environment, take a little walk.
4. Feel the anger. Pay attention to what your body does when it is angry. Anger is natural justifiable when confronted with frustration, pain, loss and the unpredictable actions of others.
5. Express it in a clear assertive and constructive way.
6. Learn to meditate so you can learn to identify your own thoughts and not get carried away by them
7. Recognize tiredness and stress. I most often get angry after working 9 hours straight, for example.
8. Focus on the issue, not on the person.
9. Take responsibility for your action.  See your part of the interaction.
10. Take a playful attitude in developing the skill of staying emotionally centered and self-controlled in high conflict situations.

>Medical News: Self-Injury Videos Popular With Teens

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Videos posted online that feature self-injury are popular viewing among young adults and possibly teens — and some researchers worry that this may encourage copycat behaviors.

A study conducted using YouTube’s search option entering the keywords “self-injury” and “self-harm,” found that the 100 most frequently-viewed videos received more than 2.3 million views — and often contained graphic depictions of cutting, burning, and self-embedding, according to Stephen Lewis, PhD, of the University of Guelph in Ontario, and colleagues.

Most of the videos did not have warnings about the content or viewing restrictions, Lewis and co-authors reported online ahead of the March issue of Pediatrics.

…  “The nature of nonsuicidal self-injury videos on YouTube may foster normalization of nonsuicidal self-injury and may reinforce the behavior through regular viewing of nonsuicidal self-injury-themed videos.”

Previous studies have shown that self-injury in the absence of suicidal thoughts occurs at rates of 14% to 21% among children, teens, and young adults, and places them at risk for interpersonal difficulties, elevated psychiatric symptoms, and even suicide.  …

The vast majority of the self-injury videos were uploaded by females (95%) with a mean age of 25. The researchers noted, however, that the actual average age of those who uploaded the videos was likely to be lower, because some YouTube viewers provide an older age to access restricted content. …

via Medical News: Self-Injury Videos Popular With Teens – in Pediatrics, General Pediatrics from MedPage Today.

… Studies, of which there are few on the subject, suggest that some 2 to 3 million Americans are self-injurers.

And that number is rising. Health-care officials report that self-injury cases have doubled in the past three years. And as life becomes more complex for teenagers, therapists expect the number will continue to rise. …

via HowStuffWorks

Early physical or sexual abuse, or even neglect can trigger the lack of self love which causes this destructive behavior.

If you’ve been messed up in some way, I believe you can reprogram your mind. I’m very interested in the topic of helping people change non-adaptive behaviors.

I’ve been able to add some very healthy habits to my life, such as meditating, lifting weights and running a mile a day, cutting out sugar and drinking healthy shakes every morning.

There are still things, long term habits like working too much, that have not yet responded to my self-therapy.

Here is my behavior modification strategy:

• Identify a behavior you want to replace.
• Identify why this behavior is a long-term dead end for you.
• Identify what short term rewards you get from this behavior.
• Identify a positive behavior that you believe will work to replace the negative behavior.  (You can’t just stop something, you must replace behaviors.)
• Do the good behavior when you want to do the bad behavior.
• If you must, trick yourself. Tell yourself, for example,  that you are going to do this replacement “just one time”. Instead of thinking I’m going to run a mile, I tell myself I’m just going once around the track, but after I get going, it is easy to keep going. Inertia.
• When you fail, consult your list of reasons you made previously. Remind yourself with understanding and compassion that changing patterns takes time and work, then  get back on track.
• Be stubborn about your goals. Persist.
• Ask for help from a  friend if you hit roadblocks and can’t make progress.

It takes about three weeks to form a good habit.

I’ve never really had self destructive feelings that would make me want to injure myself. But I have had some very strong self-anger when I don’t meet my high standards, and I have been known, when alone and frustrated, to slam my fist on my desk and utter vile curses.

 

>The Six-Legged Meat of the Future

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MARCEL DICKE and ARNOLD VAN HUIS – At the London restaurant Archipelago, diners can order the $11 Baby Bee Brulee: a creamy custard topped with a crunchy little bee. In New York, the Mexican restaurant Toloache offers $11 chapulines tacos: two tacos stuffed with Oaxacan-style dried grasshoppers.

Could beetles, dragonfly larvae and water bug caviar be the meat of the future? As the global population booms and demand strains the world’s supply of meat, there’s a growing need for alternate animal proteins. Insects are high in protein, B vitamins and minerals like iron and zinc, and they’re low in fat. Insects are easier to raise than livestock, and they produce less waste. Insects are abundant. Of all the known animal species, 80% walk on six legs; over 1,000 edible species have been identified. And the taste? It’s often described as “nutty.”

The vast majority of the developing world already eats insects. In Laos and Thailand, weaver-ant pupae are a highly prized and nutritious delicacy. They are prepared with shallots, lettuce, chilies, lime and spices and served with sticky rice. Further back in history, the ancient Romans considered beetle larvae to be gourmet fare, and the Old Testament mentions eating crickets and grasshoppers. In the 20th century, the Japanese emperor Hirohito’s favorite meal was a mixture of cooked rice, canned wasps (including larvae, pupae and adults), soy sauce and sugar.

Will Westerners ever take to insects as food? It’s possible. We are entomologists at Wageningen University, and we started promoting insects as food in the Netherlands in the 1990s. Many people laughed—and cringed—at first, but interest gradually became more serious. In 2006 we created a “Wageningen—City of Insects” science festival to promote the idea of eating bugs; it attracted more than 20,000 visitors.

Over the past two years, three Dutch insect-raising companies, which normally produce feed for animals in zoos, have set up special production lines to raise locusts and mealworms for human consumption. Now those insects are sold, freeze-dried, in two dozen retail food outlets that cater to restaurants. A few restaurants in the Netherlands have already placed insects on the menu, with locusts and mealworms (beetle larvae) usually among the dishes.

Insects have a reputation for being dirty and carrying diseases—yet less than 0.5% of all known insect species are harmful to people, farm animals or crop plants. When raised under hygienic conditions—eating bugs straight out of the backyard generally isn’t recommended—many insects are perfectly safe to eat. ….

via The Benefits of Eating Insects – WSJ.com.

>Caught on Camera: Angry mob attacks Sacramento news crew after murder

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An angry mob attacks a Sacramento based news crew. The group of an people were attending an impromptu memorial service and beat up a two employees of a Sacramento Fox affiliated television station today.

The attack occurred outside the Natomas IHOP restaurant near the intersection of Del Paso Road and Interstate 5. That was the location of a murder that occurred the day before. Two men got into a fight inside the IHOP. They took the fight out side where a 27 year old man was shot to death.

The group of those mourners jumped the two person crew. They punched the reporter in the face and dragged the photographer to the ground and kicked her. The news crew suffered scrapes and bruises but was not seriously hurt.

via From the Capitol | Angry mob attacks Sacramento news crew.

FOX40’s John Lobertini and Rebecca Little were attacked.  Reader comment:

wow what a bunch of losers. Their friend is in a gun fight then they attack the news crew including a women. Go away scum we don’t want you in our community.

More on the murder:

SACRAMENTO – Sacramento Police are investigating a late night murder outside a Natomas area IHOP.

Police say the homicide stemmed from an argument inside the restaurant on the 2900 block of Advantage Way early Sunday morning. The confrontation spilled into the parking lot, where it turned deadly.

Officers responded to the scene around 2:45 a.m. and found a 27-year-old male who had been shot. He was declared dead at the scene.

Police say they have identified two suspects based on their preliminary investigation. They are described as black males in their 20’s, between 5’8-5’10”.

Sacramento Police urges anyone with information about the crime to contact Crime Alert at (916) 443-HELP or text in a tip to 274637 (CRIMES).

via news10.net

… When FOX40 reporter John Lobertini and photojournalist Rebecca Little approached around 4 p.m.  to see if anyone wanted to talk about what happened, they were attacked. Several people pulled Little to the ground by her hair and kicked her in the face. Then, Lobertini was attacked. “I was punched on the side of my face,” said Lobertini, “but it was a situation where I was trying to fight off 6 or 7 or 8 people, I can’t even count them.”

He says he was able to hold them off long enough so Little could get up and they could backpedal down the sidewalk.

via Fox40

This is one of the stupidest things I’ve ever seen. I had a friend who was a cameraman for a news station and those cameras are much higher resolution that you are seeing here.  Identifying every person will be no problem.  I’d expect some arrests soon, especially the women in green who says “boom” as she kicks Rebecca Little in the face … and whoever punched John Lobertini, seems from the video like it was the large woman in white or the guy in purple who grabbed the camera.

>Caught on Camera: Angry mob attacks Sacramento news crew after murder

>

An angry mob attacks a Sacramento based news crew. The group of an people were attending an impromptu memorial service and beat up a two employees of a Sacramento Fox affiliated television station today.

The attack occurred outside the Natomas IHOP restaurant near the intersection of Del Paso Road and Interstate 5. That was the location of a murder that occurred the day before. Two men got into a fight inside the IHOP. They took the fight out side where a 27 year old man was shot to death.

The group of those mourners jumped the two person crew. They punched the reporter in the face and dragged the photographer to the ground and kicked her. The news crew suffered scrapes and bruises but was not seriously hurt.

via From the Capitol | Angry mob attacks Sacramento news crew.

FOX40’s John Lobertini and Rebecca Little were attacked.  Reader comment:

wow what a bunch of losers. Their friend is in a gun fight then they attack the news crew including a women. Go away scum we don’t want you in our community.

More on the murder:

SACRAMENTO – Sacramento Police are investigating a late night murder outside a Natomas area IHOP.

Police say the homicide stemmed from an argument inside the restaurant on the 2900 block of Advantage Way early Sunday morning. The confrontation spilled into the parking lot, where it turned deadly.

Officers responded to the scene around 2:45 a.m. and found a 27-year-old male who had been shot. He was declared dead at the scene.

Police say they have identified two suspects based on their preliminary investigation. They are described as black males in their 20’s, between 5’8-5’10”.

Sacramento Police urges anyone with information about the crime to contact Crime Alert at (916) 443-HELP or text in a tip to 274637 (CRIMES).

via news10.net

… When FOX40 reporter John Lobertini and photojournalist Rebecca Little approached around 4 p.m.  to see if anyone wanted to talk about what happened, they were attacked. Several people pulled Little to the ground by her hair and kicked her in the face. Then, Lobertini was attacked. “I was punched on the side of my face,” said Lobertini, “but it was a situation where I was trying to fight off 6 or 7 or 8 people, I can’t even count them.”

He says he was able to hold them off long enough so Little could get up and they could backpedal down the sidewalk.

via Fox40

This is one of the stupidest things I’ve ever seen. I had a friend who was a cameraman for a news station and those cameras are much higher resolution that you are seeing here.  Identifying every person will be no problem.  I’d expect some arrests soon, especially the women in green who says “boom” as she kicks Rebecca Little in the face … and whoever punched John Lobertini, seems from the video like it was the large woman in white or the guy in purple who grabbed the camera.